What do we do when God says no?
How do we cope?
Maybe you didn’t get the job, or the pregnancy test was negative again. Perhaps the house deal fell through or the doctor’s report was not good? We all have hard times when God’s answer is no.
God said no to my prayers.
My friend Gwen did not recover.
But God did take away her pain, her suffering and her fear when He took her to Heaven.
God said no because He had a better plan for Gwen.
But how do I cope? This is sad and hard to understand. I thought of the responses I have seen in myself and other people.
I could cope like an Angry Two Year Old.
Have a tantrum, scream and yell at God. I could pout and say, “if God isn’t going to answer my prayers my way, I won’t pray to Him anymore”.
I could cope like Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh.
I could say, “Well nothing good ever happens to me anyway. Why am I not surprised? I don’t think God loves me like He does everybody else”.
I could cope like a Martyr.
I could say, “This is God’s will. I will accept it. I probably will never feel any joy again. My lot in life is hard, and that’s the way it’s going to be”.
I could cope like a Student.
I could say, “ This is hard. It doesn’t make any sense. I want to trust You God because You tell me to. Please help me trust!” I can learn from others. I can learn from God.
I could cope like a Wise woman.
I could say, “ I know I can trust You God because I know You. You have proven Yourself to me many times. I will trust You”.
I’ve had most of those first three responses at some time in my life, especially when God said no.
Most of them are not helpful and are not based in truth. Can you relate?
Take a minute to see if you cope with one of those styles.
How do I cope?
Some days I’m the Angry two year old. I rant and cry because I didn’t get my way. But God can handle my anger.
Or I have a tendency to be the Martyr. It’s easy for me to let my circumstances steal all my joy. Not good! I want to learn how to respond better.
I think I respond most like a Student.
I want to trust God when He says no. Because He is my Heavenly Father and He knows what is best.
I want to learn from God and other people. I want joy and peace. As a student I need to go to the Bible and to good teachers.
I want to someday cope like the Wise Woman.
A wise woman who deals with hard things and praises God. A woman who has stories of times when she trusted God and she saw His hand at work.
A woman who can come along side hurting people and share God’s love.
Be encouraged my friend that God is at work in each of our lives.
When God says no to our prayers and life is hard He is still a good God that we can trust.
He is a good God who loves us.
Please pray for me as I say my final goodbye to Gwen tomorrow.
I want to share God’s love and hope with others.
I am memorizing and claiming my new verses.
“Hold fast to the hope you profess for He who promised is faithful” Hebrews 10:23. “Fix your thoughts on Jesus” Hebrews 3:2
Today’s little step: Cope like a Student. Learn from God and other people. Go to the Bible and good teachers for help.
If you would like to know about my good God, please send me a message. It would be happy to tell you how you can be part of God’s family.
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