Category Archives: fashion

Can we give grace for poor service?

What does everyday grace look like? Do you give grace when the waitress gets your order wrong? Do you give grace when someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you give grace when you receive poor service?

Grace is underserved favor. It’s a term that is used a lot in Christian circles. We talk about God’s grace for us. But when we need to give underserved favor to someone else, it’s hard. When someone doesn’t deserve our kindness, it’s much harder to give.

I’ve been praying and asking God to help me give grace to others. I should know that if I pray that kind of prayer – a test will be given to see if I really mean it.

Yikes! God did give me a test! I didn’t do very well. I think I got a C.

On Friday I went to my hairdresser. We have good discussions about God and she is learning about God’s love. I went in for a root touch up. However, when I returned from the sink I was shocked to see that my hair was much darker than I expected!


I was disappointed because I’m not really a risk taker when it comes to my hair. I like the change to be subtle, a change that only my family and close friends would notice. I chatted with my hairdresser as she styled it and she assured me that the darkness would fade. She told me I could come in on Tuesday if I didn’t like it and she would do something.

I went home with my dark hair. But every time I looked in the mirror I was surprised and I said, “it’s so dark”. My husband and children were very supportive and that helped.

I thought about my new hair color a lot those first 2 days. I thought about it too much. I was sure everyone who looked at me would notice the big change. (surprisingly hardly anyone noticed or commented) Guess I’m not that important after all. Tee hee!

I was pretty sure that I would call on Tuesday and complain. I would get her to do something to lighten it up. It was within my rights as a paying customer to get better service and she told me to call if I didn’t like it. My family said it would be ok to go back and complain.

But God reminded me that I wanted to learn grace. This was my opportunity to give undeserved favor to my hairdresser. This was my test, could I do it?

On Monday morning I read my devotional book by Oswald Chambers. There was one paragraph that seemed to written just for me.

“Is my life exhibiting the essence of the sweetness of the Son of God, or just the basic irritation of myself? No matter how difficult something may be, I must say, ‘Lord, I am delighted to obey You in this.’ The moment you obey the light of God, His Son shines through you in that very adversity.”

Wow, this was my opportunity to exhibit the sweetness of God or just focus on myself and my wants.

This was my test, could I give grace? Could I be obedient?

I decided to keep my darker colour. I wanted to have a different reaction than other customers; I wanted my Christianity to make my response different. So I gave her grace – undeserved favor, she didn’t even know. But I do and so does God!

When I look in the mirror it will be a prompt. I will thank God for His grace for me and I will thank Him for teaching me. I think I will smile too at my Heavenly Father’s sense of humor.

TODAY’S little STEP: Be sensitive to God’s leading in your life. Watch for opportunities to display everyday grace to the people you come in contact with. But, be careful. You may get a test real soon!

Just for your information the darkness did fade and I really have grown to like the new colour.

This is a post from last year that really encouraged me when I reread it this week. Hope it encourages you to show grace too!

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Attractive in 3 simple steps!

You don’t have to spend a lot of time or money to feel good about yourself. We can dress attractively and on a budget. Today we are going to have some fun with fashion!

I have to confess that I like clothes, jewelry and make-up. I’m a girly-girl through and through. I want to encourage you wherever you are on your health journey that you can dress and feel pretty today. There is no need to wait until you have reached your goal to dress attractively.

I came across Shari Braendel’s book, Help me Jesus, I have nothing to wear about 10 years ago. Shari is a Christian Image Consultant.

She’s like a fashion fairy godmother.

After years of Mom jeans and T-shirts I needed help! Can you relate? She has helped me define my style. I learned the best colours for my clothes were based on my hair and eye colour. Who knew? Now I understand why I hated shopping for clothes in the fall. I look terrible in those dark earthy tones.  Shari knows women come in all shapes and sizes. I learned how to dress for my body shape and feel confident.

Her website is go check it out!

Today I’m going to show you what I learned. I start with a white t-shirt and dark washed jeans. With a few little changes we take the outfit up a couple of notches.  Thanks to my resident photographer for helping with the photos.  I have so much more respect for fashion bloggers now.  I had no idea how to pose, or where to put my hands.  It’s harder than it looks.  (teehee)


Here is the basic T-shirt, with some shape.  Not a man’s T-shirt which has no shape. Dark wash jeans with running shoes complete the look for many women.  I have my hair done and a little bit of make-up.


I added a statement necklace and earrings.  I usually  wear a bracelet too.  A little bit of jewelry adds polish to this basic outfit.  You could add a nice little pair of flat shoes and finish the outfit.



See how adding a little jacket changes the look? It’s the pop of colour and the completer pieces.  Other completer pieces are a scarf, belt, cardigan or vest.   I found this cute little jacket at Goodwill for 5 dollars!  It even has beaded fringe on the bottom.



I replaced the running shoes with some cute little booties.  I found these on sale for 10 dollars! I love a good bargain!



If you don’t like high heels then try some interesting flats.  Running shoes are for playing with children or long walks.

There are some really cool Christian fashion bloggers that I want let you know about. Audrey is young and has an everyday kind of style. She helps you build a wardrobe from scratch and has all kinds of styling tips. This particular post shows how she went for shabby to chic with a few easy steps. There is something about comparing 2 outfits that helps me see the changes I can make.  Check out putting me together .

Tabitha blogs at Tabitha Dumas and she has a color analysis you can access for free! She demonstrates the importance of color and texture and how to incorporate them into an outfit. Her site has lots to offer!

My other favorite is Tania. She blogs at 50 is not old but don’t let the number 50 throw you off. She shows everyday fashion and her vintage finds.

TODAY’S little STEP: Put together at least one outfit based on today’s post. Look through your closet and if needed go buy a missing piece. There are lots of summer sales and Thrift stores have some hidden treasures too. You are worth it, my friend! It’s important to feel good about how you look!

Remember you are a beautiful beloved daughter of the King! He created you and He thinks you are beautiful! Take a few extra minutes to take care of yourself.

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