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Can we give grace for poor service?

What does everyday grace look like? Do you give grace when the waitress gets your order wrong? Do you give grace when someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you give grace when you receive poor service?

Grace is underserved favor. It’s a term that is used a lot in Christian circles. We talk about God’s grace for us. But when we need to give underserved favor to someone else, it’s hard. When someone doesn’t deserve our kindness, it’s much harder to give.

I’ve been praying and asking God to help me give grace to others. I should know that if I pray that kind of prayer – a test will be given to see if I really mean it.

Yikes! God did give me a test! I didn’t do very well. I think I got a C.

On Friday I went to my hairdresser. We have good discussions about God and she is learning about God’s love. I went in for a root touch up. However, when I returned from the sink I was shocked to see that my hair was much darker than I expected!

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I was disappointed because I’m not really a risk taker when it comes to my hair. I like the change to be subtle, a change that only my family and close friends would notice. I chatted with my hairdresser as she styled it and she assured me that the darkness would fade. She told me I could come in on Tuesday if I didn’t like it and she would do something.

I went home with my dark hair. But every time I looked in the mirror I was surprised and I said, “it’s so dark”. My husband and children were very supportive and that helped.

I thought about my new hair color a lot those first 2 days. I thought about it too much. I was sure everyone who looked at me would notice the big change. (surprisingly hardly anyone noticed or commented) Guess I’m not that important after all. Tee hee!

I was pretty sure that I would call on Tuesday and complain. I would get her to do something to lighten it up. It was within my rights as a paying customer to get better service and she told me to call if I didn’t like it. My family said it would be ok to go back and complain.

But God reminded me that I wanted to learn grace. This was my opportunity to give undeserved favor to my hairdresser. This was my test, could I do it?

On Monday morning I read my devotional book by Oswald Chambers. There was one paragraph that seemed to written just for me.

“Is my life exhibiting the essence of the sweetness of the Son of God, or just the basic irritation of myself? No matter how difficult something may be, I must say, ‘Lord, I am delighted to obey You in this.’ The moment you obey the light of God, His Son shines through you in that very adversity.”

Wow, this was my opportunity to exhibit the sweetness of God or just focus on myself and my wants.

This was my test, could I give grace? Could I be obedient?

I decided to keep my darker colour. I wanted to have a different reaction than other customers; I wanted my Christianity to make my response different. So I gave her grace – undeserved favor, she didn’t even know. But I do and so does God!

When I look in the mirror it will be a prompt. I will thank God for His grace for me and I will thank Him for teaching me. I think I will smile too at my Heavenly Father’s sense of humor.

TODAY’S little STEP: Be sensitive to God’s leading in your life. Watch for opportunities to display everyday grace to the people you come in contact with. But, be careful. You may get a test real soon!

Just for your information the darkness did fade and I really have grown to like the new colour.

This is a post from last year that really encouraged me when I reread it this week. Hope it encourages you to show grace too!

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WHY WE FAIL WITH WEIGHT LOSS & 4 EASY SOLUTIONS.

Why do we fail with our weight loss plans? Did you know there are scientific reasons why we fail?

But there’s hope and scientific strategies for success!

James Clear is a writer, teacher and keynote speaker.

His focus is behavioral psychology, habit formation and performance improvement.

Wow, that’s someone that knows the science behind our troubles. I’ve visited his site James Clear and give him the credit for the first three points. 

WHY DO WE FAIL?

We fail because we set unrealistic goals. We try to change too many things.

We give up all junk food; eat only fresh fruit and vegetables and chicken and fish.

Then one day there is fresh pizza at the office meeting and the temptation is too strong. We give in and eat a piece and then have a few more. We feel like a failure because we ate pizza, which is not the truth!

The new eating plan is thrown away with the empty pizza box. 

SOLUTION?

Behavioural scientists suggest we change only 3 habits at a time. Three small changes that are easy to do and that we can stick with.

Here at little steps to health we make small changes. We change just a few habits. We downsize the plate we use at each meal or snack. We exercise for 10 minutes. We say a healthy self-talk statement with prayer.

WHY DO WE FAIL?

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We fail because we are seeking a result, not a lifestyle.

My co-worker wanted to lose 30 pounds before her daughter’s wedding. She dieted and exercised for months.

She looked great that warm June day. She reached her goal!

Once she reached her goal and the wedding was over, she slowly went back to her old habits and behaviors.

When I saw her at the Christmas party I noticed she had gained back most of the weight. It wasn’t a lifestyle change.

SOLUTION?

Lifestyle changes are changes that result in better health! Some of the side effects are weight loss, increased stamina, vitality and self confidence.

The changes we make need to be easy to do and things we can continue doing.

Lifestyle changes continue because being healthy for life is the goal! 

WHY DO WE FAIL?

We fail because we assume small changes don’t add up. The assumption is that your goal has to be big to make a difference.

Every January we make a plan to go to the gym or start jogging everyday. That seems like the best way to burn calories and get in shape.

We think that if we’re not sweating and out of breath it’s not making a difference.

SOLUTION?

Believe that small changes make a difference! It may seem silly to make a goal to exercise for 10 minutes every day.

However, we know 10 minutes does make a difference to our health.

Further, the 10 minutes of exercise is something we can stick with even on a super busy day.

When 10 minutes everyday becomes a habit, and part of our lifestyle we can gradually add a few more minutes.

Find an  activity that’s fun  and get moving! 

WHY WE FAIL?

We fail because as followers of Jesus we don’t access His power.

SOLUTION?

We need to call out to Jesus in prayer. Remember we are His beloved daughters and He loves to hear from us. We can tell Him the depth of our struggles.

We need to use the power of scripture to help us in our daily battles with food.

 

TODAY’S little STEP: Believe little changes make a difference! Lifestyle changes bring health for life!

Remember every mountain is climbed one step at a time!

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Past failure will never define me!

Wow Baby it’s cold outside! It’s so easy to stay inside on cold days and eat comfort foods. Or curl up with a good book and a sweet drink. We can be lulled into thinking that we can take a break from healthy eating and exercise. Our old habits are so comfortable and way to easy to go back to. This healthy life style takes lots of little steps and some falls too. But let’s not let the falls discourage us; they are part of the learning process!

We’ve all watched a baby learn to walk. He takes a wobbly step or two and falls down. He rights himself, gets his balance and takes another couple of wobbly steps. We know that for him to learn to walk he will have numerous falls. We would never say, “ oh he’s falling too much. He’ll never be a walker”.

Yet, when we have a ‘fall’ with our healthy lifestyle our inner critic says, “ you failed again. You’ll never get it right. Just quit…. again.” But, just like the baby we must keep taking the next step forward.

 

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Don’t give into feelings of defeat! Silence the inner critic, the perfectionist that tells you that if you can’t do it perfectly to quit! Keep fighting the battle!

You are making a difference in your health with every little fall you take and every step you make!

So if you’ve had a little fall let’s take a little step forward together. You can do it, my friend!

Here are the little steps we are working on for Base Camp.

  1. Switch to a smaller plate or bowl at each meal or snack.

  2. 10 minutes of exercise a day

  3. Repeat this healthy self-talk statement-‘I am a beautiful beloved daughter of the King. I am making small changes to be healthy. Taking care of me is important’.

  4. Learn a Bible verse like this one, “For I am the LORD, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, “Do not fear, I will help you”. Isaiah 41:13

Camp #2 little steps are:

  1. Drink water in place of other beverages. Continue with the smaller plate or bowl.

  2. 15 minutes of exercise per day.

  3. Become aware of your inner critic and negative self-talk. Repeat this healthy self-talk statement daily.  ‘I am a beautiful beloved daughter of the King!  I am making small changes to be healthy.  Taking care of me is important’.

  4. Pray and share your concerns with Jesus.  Memorize a verse.  Here’s a good one.  “Show me your ways, O LORD, teach me your paths.  My hope is in you all day long.” Psalm 25:4,5b

You decide which camp is best for you or maybe a combination of both. Take the next little step, because they all make a difference.

Every mountain is climbed one step at a time!

Remember our core scripture verse. “And let us not get tired of doing what is right, for after a while we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t get discouraged and give up”. Galatians 6:9 New Living Translation

Today’s little step: Take the next little step that is best for you! Silence the inner critic! Remember the baby and keep taking little steps.

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Why do we fail? Scientific strategies for success!

Every January I feel like a failure. I start out the month with high hopes – this year I will drop some weight and get fit.

After 4 weeks of depriving myself of all my favorite foods and over-exercising I can’t keep it up and I quit!

Can you relate? Why do we fail and what can we do differently this year?

 

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You aren’t a failure! Read that again, my friend.

Stop that negative self-talk!

I did some research and found scientific reasons why we fail and some strategies for success. James Clear is a writer, teacher and keynote speaker. His focus is behavioral psychology, habit formation and performance improvement. Wow, that’s someone that knows the science behind our troubles. I’ve visited his site James Clear and give him the credit for the first three points.

1.  We fail because we set unrealistic goals. We try to change too many things. We give up all junk food; eat only fresh fruit and vegetables and chicken and fish. Then one day there is fresh pizza at the office meeting and the temptation is too strong. We give in and eat a piece and then have a few more. We feel like a failure because we ate pizza, which is not the truth! The new eating plan is thrown away with the empty pizza box.

Instead behavioral scientists suggest we change only 3 habits at a time. Three small changes that are easy to do and that we can stick with.

At Base Camp we make small changes to our lifestyle. We downsize the plate we use at each meal or snack. We exercise for 10 minutes. We say a healthy self-talk statement with prayer.

2.  We fail because we are seeking a result, not a lifestyle. My co-worker wanted to lose 30 pounds before her daughter’s wedding. She dieted and exercised for months. She looked great that warm June day. She reached her goal! But when I saw her at the Christmas party I noticed she had gained back most of the weight. Once she reached her goal she slowly went back to her old habits and behaviors. She didn’t continue with the lifestyle, probably because it was too hard.

The changes we make need to be easy to do and things we can continue doing. Lifestyle changes continue after we reach a goal so the goal can be maintained.

3.  We fail because we assume small changes don’t add up. The assumption is that your goal has to be big to make a difference. Every January we make a plan to go to the gym or start jogging everyday. That seems like the best way to burn calories and get in shape. We think that if we’re not sweating and out of breath it’s not making a difference.

In comparison it seems silly to make a goal to exercise for 10 minutes every day. However, we know 10 minutes does make a difference to our health

Further, the 10 minutes of exercise is something we can stick with even on a super busy day. When 10 minutes everyday becomes a habit, and part of our lifestyle we can gradually add a few more minutes.

The exercise component of Base Camp is 10 minutes everyday. If you are new to exercise this can be broken into two 5 minute periods.

Find an  activity that’s fun  and get moving!

4.  We fail because as followers of Jesus we don’t access His power. We need to call out to Jesus in prayer. Remember we are His beloved daughters and He loves to hear from us. We can tell Him the depth of our struggles…. “Jesus, it’s me again. I feel like I’ve come to you with same cry for help for years, and yet, you have never brushed me aside. I want you to know how much I long for your peace, your comfort and all that you have to offer me. I know I don’t deserve this many opportunities, but you keep on giving them to me.

“Please help me today to reach for you first and be filled with your power. Then because of your power, I will be strong enough to resist the pull of worry, emotions and all the things that cause me to satisfy my hunger with anything other than you.  Amen” 

The spiritual component of Base Camp reminds us to pray throughout our day asking for God’s power.

TODAY’S little STEP: Stop calling yourself a failure! Just start wherever you are today, make  little changes and believe that they make a difference.  If you need to start at Base Camp to get back in the climbing mode.

Remember every mountain is climbed one step at a time!

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